How to successfully negotiate for the job, salary, or work flexibility you want

Focus on why the company needs you, not on what you want for yourself.

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• Victoria Medvec is a professor of management and organizations and the CEO of a consulting firm.
• She says while negotiating can be intimidating, there are ways to stay in control and come out on top.
• Set yourself apart, highlighting your unique professional qualities, and present suggestions in writing.
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Let's say you've got a new job offer in hand, but you're not thrilled with the salary. Or you're angling for a promotion at work, but your manager doesn't seem to be on the same page. Maybe you're overwhelmed with too many projects and you want to adjust your workload. All of this calls for a negotiation.

Does that fill you with a bit of dread? If so, you're not alone, explained Victoria Medvec, a professor of management and organizations at Kellogg and CEO of Medvec and Associates consulting firm.

"When we are negotiating for ourselves, we get really afraid. Even experienced negotiators tend to get really afraid," she said. "So we want to unlock tools and strategies to help you have that conversation in a confident way."

Medvec shared some of these tools and strategies, which come from her forthcoming book, "Negotiate Without Fear," in a recent The Insightful Leader Live webinar.

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Set yourself apart

To start with, make sure you're staying laser focused on the other party's needs, not your own. Think about being a "pronoun checker," she said. If you're saying "I" and "me" a whole lot, you're not focusing on the right side.

"As I go into the negotiation, I have to have a compelling message and that message needs to focus on the company, not me," Medvec said. "This is one of the hardest things for people to do when they're negotiating for themselves. … Why? Because what I want is so salient to me."

One way to translate your own wants into something that is salient to the other side is to think about your differentiators - what are the skills, qualities, and experiences that set you apart? Crucially, your differentiators need to be valuable to the person you're negotiating with. If you're fluent in Mandarin, but your company isn't looking to do business in China, that's not a differentiator in that context.

So how do you identify your differentiators? First of all, be confident that you have them. "I find differentiators in everyone I talk to," Medvec said. "Everybody has unique capabilities, unique competencies, unique knowledge."

Maybe your differentiator is that you've worked with a particular client for a long time and have a great relationship with them. Or you came from a competitor and therefore have unique business insights. Even things that may feel like a liability can yield differentiators, she said.

For example, if you've been out of the workforce for a while, "be confident, because I doubt that you were out and did nothing that added to your differentiators," she said. "Maybe it gave you persistence. Maybe it made you incredibly good at overcoming difficult challenges."

Then, crucially, turn your differentiators into issues you can negotiate on. If one of your differentiators is that you've lived in Latin America, then explain how your understanding of the culture there will help you drive sales in that region. Or if your differentiator is that you came from a different industry and have a unique set of insights into your new industry, offer to do lunch-and-learns or briefings to senior leadership to share your knowledge with others.

Give them options

Medvec recommends going into a negotiation with multiple options for the other side. For example, if you're negotiating for a promotion, the three options you present to your manager could have different titles and different pay, but also different project timelines and goals that are commensurate with those titles and pay. She suggests having these in writing, but showing them only after you've verbally conveyed the story about how you, uniquely, can address the other side's needs.

"People love having choice," she said. "They feel better having choice. And they're going to react better to having choice."

Medvec emphasizes that these tools can work in all sorts of negotiations, not just ones over pay or promotion.

For example, maybe you want to reduce your workload. First off, Medvec said, definitely negotiate on this instead of simply throwing up your hands and quitting. "I always tell people, never depart without a negotiation," she said.

But remember your pronoun checker, and make sure you're focusing on your employer's needs. "It's not about me being burned out," she said. "It's about the company having this challenge that needs more of my attention. And I don't have the ability to focus on it right now because of this, this, and this. And we need to reorient so that I can give this an effective amount of time."

Negotiate on your way out

She even advises that people use these strategies to negotiate on their way out of a job.

But what do you do if you have this negotiation sprung on you with no time to prepare? Stall, Medvec said.

Let's say there's a new CEO at your company, and you have a hunch they're going to clean house a bit and hire their own new people. It's Friday afternoon, and you suddenly have a meeting with the CEO, and you spot your HR rep in the room.

"As soon as they start the conversation, you just look overwhelmed. And you say, 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I have to go. We can pick this up on Monday,'" Medvec said. And you leave the room.

Then spend the weekend figuring out your differentiators and how you can help that CEO get what they want. "I need to think about how to leave in the best possible way," Medvec said. "And I have to negotiate to get that."

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